I’ve had this sense that, while I’m supposed to be writing and creating something, I’m not ready to share it yet. I’ve been really being hard on myself feeling like I “should” be getting on with this and actually “do the thing” I’m supposed to by now. Stop “playing business” and researching everything under the sun. I was exploring which fear is holding me back and I realized it’s not really fear. It’s more a sense of wanting space to figure out what I really have to say. I’m trying to do and go through the motions though, knowing that the action will lead me to where I’m meant to end up. I’m a recovering people pleaser and am really just beginning to understand the effect that has had on my life. In all the personality profiling systems I’ve taken over the years, each system has explained my ability to morph or fit in with whomever I’m around. It’s not like I totally lose myself and my personal ethics; but I want people to like me and act in a way that they will. I’ve done that unconsciously for so long, I’m not really sure what my own voice is like anymore. Can anyone relate to that? I believe that’s what this blog and business are about. Finding my own voice and helping others to do the same. When we can all be our true authentic selves, that’ll be when we start seeing some radical change in the world.
When I was in my late twenties, I owned a yoga studio and was certified as a Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapist. My business card read “Claim yourself, your life, your light, your truth.” It still really hits home for me. I just keep thinking about how purposeful and empowering that is. It starts with claiming yourself. Who am I really? When I take away all the conditioning and “should be” and people pleasing, who’s left? Am I strong enough to stand up for who that person is? Am I able to be unapologetically that person no matter what circumstance? Am I able to handle the shadow side of this person? Am I willing to nurture and expose that side? There are so many layers to each of us. We all came into this life with gifts and weaknesses, wisdom and lessons, defined purpose and freedom to choose. Claiming yourself doesn’t mean you have to be stuck in one version of you forever. It does mean getting clear on who you are and choosing to live your life in alignment with that.
Which leads to the next part, claim your life. Live with intention for YOUR highest good. No longer people pleasing and saying yes and being frustrated later. It’s about deciding what you really want from your life. What’s your soul’s purpose? How can you achieve it? If you could live the life of your dreams, what would it look like? What adjustments can you make to better live into these answers? I am obsessed with astrology because, for me, it helps give me a guiding path and an explanation into why I act a certain way. I also love that it gives me a purpose to follow. It connects me to a higher power because there is no way that shit is random. Birth charts are so accurate for a person is, it has to be divine timing that you were born in that exact moment. You were meant to live this life. The good, the bad, the in-between, it was all meant for you to experience and learn from. When you are living your life in alignment, your inner light will start shining brighter and brighter, leading you to claim your light.
You claim your light by owning your inherent value as a human being with no strings attached. No, if this…., then I’ll be…. statements can happen when you are claiming your light. We are all worthy simply by being alive. We weren’t created to have stipulations on our value. We have done that to ourselves. Our light can never be taken from us. It’s what makes you, you. The light inside us, the light that connects us to others, the light that connects us to the universe, is meant to be shared. It needs to be shared because there is not another single person on this planet that is exactly like you. I mean, just think how incredible that is. In a world population of 7.7 billion people, there’s not another one of you. It’s mind-boggling to think about. But thinking about it makes me realize what a disservice it would be to not claim my inner essence. If there is only one you, it’s your responsibility to find out who that is and share it with the world, aka live your truth.
Claiming and living your truth is what, I believe, we need in our world. We need to allow people to be authentically themselves and stand in their inner knowing. Fulfilling our unique truth could quite possibly change the world. An action you do could ripple into unknown possibilities. Just imagine all the thought leaders and influencers that have changed that world. They lived the truth in their heart and it has made all the difference. I think the only way we can get to our truth is by spending quiet time with ourselves and unpacking all the layers we have built to hide. If we are clear about our truth and living from that place, everything else will flow easily and naturally. To live in the flow of your authentic truth has got to feel amazing. I’m not there yet but I sincerely hope I get there one day.
If we were a population of people committed to un-bagging all our shit AND HEALING what we found to embrace our truth, our world would be unrecognizable. I personally love peeling back the layers of myself and analyzing what I find. It’ll never be done, but it’s an interesting quest. What is your first step in claiming yourself, your life, your light, your truth?
Here’s a challenge for you: Find a step you can do today and move closer to who you are.
